EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

I had the good fortune of learning something new yesterday which made an impression on me and I wish to share that with you this afternoon. It's about our affinity to be irresponsible. Yes, IRRESPONSIBLE! The opposite of responsible. We often neglect to acknowledge the fact that each time we apportion blame on something or one other than ourselves for what is going wrong in our life, we are irresponsible. Responsibility which is the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone; holds true in spite of outside interference or overwhelming / overriding factors. The phenomenon that is more acceptable to us especially here in Nigeria is called Determinism. This is the philosophy that all events, including human action, are ultimately determined by causes regarded as external to the will. Some philosophers have taken determinism to imply that individual human beings have no free will and cannot be held morally responsible for their

This was going to be a short quote but it ended up like this. Any man who is hard on his wife is cheating on her and any woman who is hard on her husband is cheating on him. (E. I. Oputa, 2017) Being hard or soft is my coinage to represent two contrary emotions that people reflect in relationships.  When a man wants to toast a girl, he goes soft. You don't get a babe by being obnoxious, violent and difficult. The same thing happens to a girl that wants to entrap or catch a man. She goes soft. She doesn't complain. She's the most understanding and accommodating. Being married does not imply you throw away all the little wisdom you garnered when you were single. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Listen lady, you can be hard to everybody else in the world, just make sure that you are (and show yourself to be) soft to the one that matters most to you (your husband). Obviously, you don't take shit from anybody. Be willing to take it from your husband. Y

... Imagine keeping your wife in Dubai to oversee company affairs there while you remain in the US. You’ve just split up your own family with your hand.  No matter how big your vision gets. NEVER SPLIT YOUR FAMILY. Marriage is about unity. If she cannot be where you are, then there is no reason why she would or should remain married to you. ... The couple is ONE. Not TWO. There is NO VISION without the man (plural - couple) that will write it down, make in plain and run with it. Without vision there is no path. The Man is directionless - without work. But a man that is not complete - not united in marriage to his missing rib, cannot be successful in executing his vision (following his path). Cos' you see, his path has two many dangers that he can not handle alone, thus his need to be complete. A lot of men have had this your idea and they ended up loosing everything. Their love, their wife, their children and eventually their business or whatever they