EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Good morning dears, Remember this: DO NOT SEEK FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO MEASURE UP TO ANY STANDARD! The union of marriage is a living entity and it is unique. NO TWO MARRIAGES ARE THE-SAME! Even if you have twin men marrying twin women on the same day by the-same officiator ... their respective marriages will still be different. A lot of young men and women tend to tailor their marriage to that of a mentor or some other persons' marriage they admire. STOP IT! You are following the recipe to disaster. Your marriage is unique. The dynamic you have with your spouse is special. Your history plays a huge role. The words/vows you exchanged and their implications, the core principles you agreed on as a unit, the expressions of love - the weight behind each of them, ... all these and more have an effect on the uniqueness of your marriage. So you witnessed a husband command his wife in public and she responded meekly, you suddenly decided to try it out with your own wife?

Marriage is a unifying force. This means two people (male and female) have wrapped themselves around themselves so much that they each live in the other. It's just like the physical manifestation in conception. You roll on the hay so well with your spouse that you exchange parts of yourselves. He enters you and you enter him and together you guys produce the physical manifestation of that union - a child. A child is not the only manifestation of your union.  You see, people are made of their experiences! When you share experiences together you absorb a little of each other. The more you give of yourself, the more entwined you get to the point that there is little difference between both of you - you become one. So,   When you spend money on your side chick, know that its also your wife's money you are spending! When you sleep with that married man, be aware that you are sleeping with two people in one. His wife in bed with you two. When you slap that mechanic,