EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Good Morning,  Recently I've been reading up on one of the brilliant minds of our time. He is a South African-born Canadian-American business magnate, investor, engineer and an inventor. Among his many inventions include: Futurist extraordinaire. Tesla Motors, electric car. ... SpaceX, Falcon rocket. ... X.com (PayPal) e-payments. ... Hyperloop. ... Zip2, online city guides. ... SolarCity, solar-power systems. ... Electric Jet  e.t.c. His net Worth is $15.9 billion (USD). So yep, he is very rich. His name is ELON MUSK. I gave this much background on him because I'll like to use him for my analogy today. When it comes to finance in marriage, a lot of people get so jittery and messed up that they mess up an already made bed.  Ladies, imagine that you are married to Mr. Musk and he asks you to give him a million dollars of your own money, which is basically all you have, would you? I bet the answer would be Yes? Why? Because he's wort

You think you've figured life out? You know nothing. There is no end to learning. Don't limit your self to an idea. Life is bigger and more dimensional than you  could ever imagine. So, take a deep breath and stop assuming, judging, 'rail-roading" or limiting. Have an open mind and you will yet be shocked by what you find My lecturer once said to me (when I was in school), if you don't read, you'll end up paying those that have read. Reading is a habit that  develops your person. It's like feeding your body. But in the case of reading you are feeding your mind. Years later as a teacher in a school, I told my students (when I was still teaching) that books are sources while those that read the books and assimilate them are called resource persons. You value is equal to what you have inside of you. Develop the reading culture and develop yourself so that your wealth will not be in your possessions or your bank statement but in you. This is why

Why do people, I mean all of us, crave for the approval and attention of others to feel okay? Should achievement be tied to what others think? Should your happiness depend on the whims and emotions of others? Don't anchor your happiness on others. Don't place premium on things that do not last. A Crow was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan... This swan is so white and I am so black...crow thought. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world. He expressed his thoughts to the swan. "Actually," the swan replied, "I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation." The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, "I lived a very happy life—until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors." The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundre

Sex, while a taboo in many societies, is a very important discuss for intending couples. Sex education course is very important in the premarital education studies. Knowing how to please and satisfy your husband is almost as important as maintaining the stability of your home. More men have come to discover that what they see is not often what they get. You see a pretty and sexy girl. When you finall y bed her you are so disappointed, but if you are a gentle man you try not to show it. Knowledge of how to satisfy your man and master your own body is very important and fulfilling. Men also need this education. Sex is not work. You don't do in and out. There is a method and skill involved that makes it memorable. It starts from the psychological, then transcends to the emotional, and then on to the physical which must be exceptional. The uninitiated are so influenced by the "false" impression given by movies and the media that they get disappointed when they

Judgment, preconceived notions, society adopted norms, ...... whichever you may call it is something we all should learn to avoid. Nobody has a claim on the authority of what is right. Look around you, the rules that some people died for in the past, are now OK. Whether it is:   - Female Bishops   - Slavery   - Class system - Inter-tribal marriages - Negotiation with terror organizations - Gay rights   - Female equality   e.t.c. Whatever is your stand on the issues listed above, and much others like them, really doesn't matter as much as it matters what you'll feel about them within different circumstances and at different times. The clothes people wear, the hairstyle, the language and others like such are dynamic and change periodically. That's is why you won't be caught wearing a clothe that was worn in the 1980's. THINGS CHANGE!!! With that in mind we should all be careful of how we "take decisions" and "put our feet

THERE IS NO COMFORT IN CONFORMITY Speaking to some young students about "Secrets to Exam Success", I'm faced with a feeling of nostalgia because I remember how it was to be like them. It got me thinking, about the definition of success and failure. They were all getting ready for a promotional and transitional exam. To them this exam would determine life and death. Looking at them, I can see fear in their eyes and an earnest determination to surmount that fear, I can't but wonder if society has redirected th e minds of young ones to prioritize the wrong things. Is getting an A in an exam propotional to success in life? Is being brilliant in any field of endeavour tantamount to satisfaction? Is a degree a guarantee for getting a good job? What really is worth dying for? These questions bug my mind as the "future leaders" listen with rapt attention as I enunciate to them the "Secrets to Conformitiy" Has your achievements achieved your

  MAKE YOUR OWN MIRACLE. EVEN A MIRACLE IS WORK Experience has taught me that those that sit around waiting for things to happen, often times don't get anything happen to them. MIRACLES ARE NOT THE PRESERVE OF A SET OF PEOPLE!!!!! Note that the rain falls on everybody that takes the effort to come under it. You'll probably not get the job if you don't apply for it. You'll probably not get rich if you are afraid of taking risks. You'll probably not get married if you lock yourself at home all year round. You'll probably not be the governor of your state if you are not a people's person and join a political party. In order words, GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT. Don't be afraid of failing. Cos' those who have never failed at anything, have probably never tried anything new. DON'T FEAR FALLING, FEAR NOT RISING AGAIN AFTER FALLING. News: EVERYBODY FAILS. At one time or another everybody has recorded a failure. No child learns to walk withou

Have you been lied to? Do you tell lies? While some may argue on the necessity of telling lies, I know from experience that it's so much easier to NOT tell lies. In those awkward (on the spot) moments when it seems that telling a lie is inevitable, times when your brain even tells you that it's a sacrificial act and that it's for the good of the person you are lying to......... ........ those periods can best be handled with a sealed lip. Yes! It's better to SHUT UP than to lie. Lying has a profound effect on people. It destroys trust, and integrity and faith just goes out the window. THE EFFECTS OF LYING ON A RELATIONSHIP When was the last time you lied to your partner? And why did you do it? Lying is habituated behaviour usually driven by either fear of someone feeling badly towards you or the desire to be 'accepted', or liked. Compulsive lying puts any relationship on an uncertain footing. Think how your partner must feel if they

If your life is a revolving pattern. If you are no longer contented with the state of things. I mean to say, if you feel disturbed because you are tired of thesame humiliation happening again and there seems to be no end to the stretching of your endurance. Then here is ONE simple thing you can do to change things. Please by-pass if you don't understand the prelude. This is only for those who have seemingly come to the end of the road. . . . . . . . . . . Keep going . . . . . . . . . . . Your answer is only a scroll away . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Come on don't get tired, this solution is so real it'll catapult you from the realm of indebtedness and stagnation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . CONGRATULATIONS! You are almost there! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . OKAY No need to prolong the wait. if you've still there, it means you really need to see this. THE ANSWER: TAKE IT....DIVE IN.....GET IN TROUBLE ...... Now, you

Wikipedia defines it as faithfulness or a devotion to a person, country, group, or cause. Understand what being loyal means. You must be willing to allow your own interests to take second place to be truly loyal to another person or cause. Loyalty is simply the act of putting someone or something else ahead of one's self. Be willing to sacrifice. Being loyal in a patriot sense, as in loyal to one's country, has placed millions in harm's way in wars throughout history. The people who serve in the modern military are loyal to their nation, its flag, and the purpose they serve for. Being loyal to a friend or your own family can also require sacrifice. Take time to look at the needs of whomever will have your loyalty. To take steps of loyalty, you need to recognize that it is a deliberate effort, and to be truly loyal to someone, you have to be willing to invest yourself, your time and energy in them. Ask yourself if what or who you are offering your loyalty to is

It's funny that I should actually have to write about this. But it seems people are very impressionable and easily swayed by the funniest things imaginable. It's actually mind boggling the pranks and setups people are susceptible to. So here are some pointers as we seemingly enter into the season of "foolish undertakings" "Man is naturally selfish". Nobody will go out of his way to get you a link to be rich with no strings attached. Whoever teaches on wealth and prosperity must be wealthy. It's got to work for you first. There is no such thing as "no strings attached". Even your family has strings attached to every favour they do for you. Whether you see it as such or not. Don't be fooled. There are no real "get-money-quick-without-work-schemes". Whatever scheme you or anybody comes up with will require work or a strong risk factor even when illegal. Spiritual truths and revelation are also a product of perspective

Hello Friends: I'll like to share with you today something I've noticed among some of our elders. It is a virtue. A lot of people these days see only what's wrong with our elders (and some of these insights are actually credible) but today I want to point out few virtues our elders display that we must thrive to imbibe early if we want to live long and enjoy our life. Discipline Respect Honour  Faith  Wisdom  Generosity  Laughter  Hard work Forbearance Humility I'm not going to dissect these virtues neither will I claim that all elderly folks I've met have all of these. These are the upper percentile virtues I've picked up from a wide range of elderly folks I've had the pleasure of meeting. Sometime in May, an elderly man walked into my neighbour's business place and greeted him. That was what caught my attention the first time I saw him. The grey haired, frail looking man does not allow you greet him first, he's alw

If your wife fails at something, you are to blame. The same way any leader is to blame if the people he is leading suffers any injury. If your husband fails at something, you are to blame. The same way any campaign manager/chief of staff is to blame when his principal fails at the poll. 1 + 1 = 1 is an analogy of fact not fiction. It means that your love is so tight that it has bound you two to one entity so that you are together in success or in failure. "She is lazy and emotionless!" well, it is your fault. The fact that you are saying it already tells me you have secluded yourself in the comfort room of justified and left your dear wife out in the cold of victimization. If you feel your wife is slack in certain duties (lazy), your job is to complement her by covering for her in those duties while propping her up and coaching her to the place where she finally takes it over with confidence. When I was younger, my father told a story of how my mum couldn't

That is what I see affecting our youths these days. Sorry if I'm sounding too serious today, but I woke up with a need. A need to scream. How can you be 35 going 40 and you still have not figured out who you are? I mean, when will you start LIVING? The period of ADOLESCENCE is defined by Wikipedia as "the period following the onset of puberty during which a young person develops from a child into an adult." This is the period that a young adult determines who he/she is. Character, personality, traits, dreams, principles ... I see a crop of ADULTS who NEVER experienced that period (formed their personality). So: We have big babies with no clue as to who they are or why they are where they are.  We have loads of people that follow blindly, political leaders who themselves are blind.  We have Senior Pastors who do not even know the basic principles of the faith they preach.  Doctors who do not understand the meaning or of their Hippocratic Oath.  We have

Being a father is one of the greatest pinnacles of my life. You've not known the meaning of life until you see a mini-you showering you with love untainted. Children do not see defects, mistakes, short comings, e.t.c. They love you as you are, with all your poverty and low self esteem. A child gives and gives and gives ..... and when you think this is the end they surprise you by giving yet again. You may ask what can a child possibly give? They came with nothing! How wrong you are! They came with everything that matters! They bring hope. They have energizing smiles.   Their laughter ----- it's something else. Their noise - (have you been in a large home without children? it's the most depressing place ever).   Their jokes. Lord have mercy! My daughter keeps my stomach on perpetual ache with her own brand of comic relief. They bring motivation. Nothing pushes a man to success like the thought of being able to provide for your family. You'