EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Hello friends,  Here are some words of wisdom to meditate on in preparation for 2020 marital bliss.  The coined phrase "gender pride" refers to the innate pride one feels in his gender as a result of attaining a certain status or achieving a certain goal.  For instance, it is the pride a lady feels when she takes in and puts-to-bed. You hear them say things like, "I am finally a woman". The same thing also occurs in a man.  Gender pride also comes to play in cases of achievement. When a young man has been able to attain a level of wealth or independence, he said to become a man. Funny enough the same is also said of a boy who gains wealth at a young age.  Today, I will be touching on the importance of protecting the essence of gender pride in our marriage. Often times we neglect this issue for varied reasons. One, we may not even realize that it is an issue. Two, we disregard it in the face of westernization and illuminating education.

"A parent recently checked his daughters' phone spontaneously only to save her from a potential kidnapper. His daughter was chatting with a man with a fake account, and nefarious intentions. She had agreed to meet the man at the mall and she was not going to tell her parents." The right of the child is something everyone should be passionate about but I've noticed of recent that the discourse has become ridiculous and meaningless.  Talk about people seriously debating on the right of the child to gender determination, absolute privacy, and personality formation.  IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE ADULT PARENT to:  Give birth to the child. No child can be consulted on whether or not he/she wants to be born. That is the sole prerogative of the parents.  Provide for the child. The limitations of the parents also binds the child. It's ridiculous to separate the welfare of the parent from the child.  Form the child's' character. Parents

An unhealthy lifestyle will raise your blood pressure over time. And the higher your blood pressure becomes, the higher your risk of having a stroke or heart attack in the future. But the good news is that if you have high blood pressure, healthy changes will help to bring it down. And you don't have to wait until you have high blood pressure to make healthy lifestyle changes. The more you can reduce your blood pressure, the lower your risk of a heart attack or stroke will be. 1. Blood Pressure Diet - Eat less salt Too much salt raises your blood pressure, so it is important to eat as little as possible. In fact, some people with high blood pressure may be able to avoid blood pressure medicines by cutting down on salt. Most of the salt you eat is not what you add to your food, but is in prepared foods like bread, breakfast cereals and ready meals. Don’t add salt to food when cooking or at the table. When shopping for food, check the labels and choose low-salt o

Wife respect your husband!  A lot of issues will die a natural death if wives respect their husbands.  I know a lot of your reaction now will be to ask about husbands that do not respect or value their wife. “What about them?” My response is simple: this post is not about that. It is about your duty as a wife to respect the position and person of your husband.  If the above statement is an issue for you as a wife, then you should get a divorce. (Not an advocate of divorce!!!)  I have said it on this platform severally, in advice to spinsters, only marry a man that is above you in everything. This helps you to look up to him, respect him, value him, learn from him and submit to him. It is difficult submitting to a man whose values and character is beneath yours. It is hard respecting a man who has no self-respect. It is almost impossible submitting to a man whose status is lower than yours (and I don’t mean physical height).  If as a woman you want your marriage t

Hello friends,  I have always maintained that although there is equality of the sexes in general, there is no equality of the couple in marriage.  The man is the head of the family. The captain. The first defender. The overseer and representative.  The woman is the neck of the family. The specialist. The director of operations. The home builder and first class mate.  The structural hierarchy is not to demean a sex but to foster cohesion that recognizes the strengths and weaknesses presented by each gender and personality.  This present article is really not about the hierarchy needed for the home to succeed but "why so many men refuse their wives from working".  Why do some men stop their wives from taking on career responsibilities?  Why do some husbands feel threatened by their wives job?  Here are some reasons gathered from years of experience counselling and observing contemporary homes: 1. The man needs to remain relev

Hello friends,  What is love? I heard a song similar in lyrics to the title of this post that made me realise that LOVE means different things to different people. And that one of the greatest common errors people make is ASSUMING that your definition of love is the-same with the other persons’ definition. It has gotten to the time when one has to ask “What exactly do you mean?” when receiving an “I Love You” declaration. What do you mean? What exactly do you mean? What do you love about me? . . . Today’s post is not really about defining love but scrutinising a popular view of love that bothers on SEXISM and SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION. Sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on a person's sex or gender. Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. . . When I heard the song as entitled, I realised that w

Hello friends, One of the greatest experiences a person could gain in this world is one that comes from the relationship of having a HOME - a FAMILY! One of the greatest failings in gleaning this great experience is seeing it as a destination and not a journey. A family is not an achievement! It is not a result! A symbol of hierarchy or status! It is not a possession! A product or reward of years of work or turmoil! Thinking it is the above is one of the underlying factors for a lot of marital failures. Do NOT get married because: Your friends are getting married You are of age. You have acquired "sufficient" wealth for it. You deserve it. In this part of the world, students are used to the process of a result from an examination after a term of schooling. Or for workers, the process of a wage after a month or period of work. Marriage should not be seen in this light. Bone of my bones! Flesh of my flesh! My very soul-mate! The one that completes me! The one person wh

A black sheep is still a sheep. A prodigal son is still a son. The worst sin is not the crime of the child but the betrayal of a parent in denying a child. What did he/she do? Got pregnant out of wedlock Shamed the family name with a scandal Committed a petty crime Abandoned family faith or doctrine or denomination Became gay or lesbian e tc Whatever the crime, the greater sin remains DENYING / ABANDONING YOUR CHILD! That is the definition of IRRESPONSIBILITY! Please, let wisdom lead. Do not let your action make your child fall into the deep end! Being a parent does not end after birth. It is like marriage, till death. #ablacksheepisstillasheep - E. I. OPUTA

1. If he hits you when dating, he is likely to do worse when married. 2. If you snatched him from his loyal girlfriend, he is likely to be unfaithful after marriage. 3. If she maintains an expensive phone, car, makeup, fashion sense and lifestyle; you most likely will spend a lot of money on these. 4. If she disrespects her father; she will most likely not respect. 5. If you do not know everything about him, he is most likely hiding something. 6. If he won't compromise for you in little things, he most likely will be betray in big things. 7. If he refuses to allow you meet his parents/relatives, he most likely is not serious about you. 8. If she can't cook, clean or even likes children, you most likely will do it yourself. 9. If he spends more money on his friends than he does you, you most likely are replaceable. 10. If he never shows interest in your health, education, career and socio-economic well being, you most likely are

Hi folks, Have you ever seen a star? Especially at night? They are so beautiful. So glittery - shiny. Do you know what a star really is? Have you ever imagined what it looks like up close? A star really is the burning of different gasses that causes immense heat that can melt you to ashes. An example of a star is our very own SUN. I'm sure you can imagine this now. What makes a star is not nice? It is ugly, nasty, elements, undergoing a constant nuclear reaction similar to the effect of a hydrogen bomb. Now, who wants to be a star? . . . . . When you look at people called stars, like famous artists sports & movies celebrities, politicians, etc. we often place them on a pedestal that is absolutely unreasonable. They don't mind at all. Infact they go out of their way to encourage such. That is what they call Branding. These people go through a lot of work to maintain that stardom. To be a star that have to "burn" constantly.

Everyone knows how to celebrate a win. We stunt on the gram so that a few thousand strangers can know that things are getting bera. ⠀ ⠀ No problem. Shebi all na branding. ⠀ ⠀ However, as a young person still NEGOTIATING THE CLIMB, your impact and longevity will be determined by how you handle your losses as well.⠀ ⠀ What happens when you’re momentarily disrespected or treated poorly? ⠀ ⠀ What’s your response when payment is withheld? ⠀ ⠀ Do you seek a speedy and quiet resolution? Or do you submit your case to the High Court of Social Media? ⠀ ⠀ Some time ago, someone caused a small ruckus on social media, claiming that her boss (who was famous) didn’t pay her.⠀ ⠀ Her aim was to publicly embarrass this woman into paying her. You can trust that she got a ton of support from the unthinking mob. ⠀ ⠀ The inferior wisdom of the world says “Fight for your rights”, but it is limited wisdom. It didn’t teach you how. ⠀ ⠀ Learn from David who though was h

NOTICE: Adult content! Not for kids under 20+. Parental screening is advised. Being good pays. Being bad also pays in experience.   Sex and the issues surrounding it has been identified as the leading cause of family and relationship break ups since the dawn of time. One of the factors for such as ignorance. You see, people do not know enough about their own body and as such have to wing it. If you have been a virgin or inexperienced in the area of sex, the tendency for you to mess up is high. Common terms that you should know like orgasm, G-spot, clitoris, sensitive spots etc are all foreign concepts to you virgin minds. In fact, most societies discourage the acquisition of said knowledge and we know that knowledge is power. So the weakness in romantic and sexual prowess invariably leads to disaster as loving relationships are foiled due to dissatisfaction in the marital bed.   I say marital bed because it is the only bed that matters to me. Religion has played a cr

Enough with the confusion! Single ladies, let's talk marriage a bit. Marriage is not partnership. The bond is not friendship. Marriage is not a competition. It is not living a fairy tale. If you are attracted to a man, that is not a sign that you have to marry him. There are a lot of amazing / attractive people in this world. Crushing on them is only normal. If you have feelings (love) for a man. that is not enough reason to marry him. I'm sure you have feelings for your brother but you don't marry him, do you? It is very possible to have deep love for many men. Being in love is a conscious act that can only be granted one person. What is the utmost sign / reason to agree to a man's proposal? How do you know which of your crushes is suitable to become your husband? Let's deal on this finally, shall we? . . . . . . . . . . Whoever is going to be your husband needs to: 1. Be your idol: This means that his real persona/character is so admired by you that you worship

7. As Holy Christians, we may not subscribe to the Valentine Fever, but As Married Folks, it is imperative that this Fever is enshrined in our day to day living. Do not neglect being romantic to the wife of your youth. Take her out today and make her feel like the luckiest girl in the world. It is scriptural, legal and wise. 6. Anger may be UNAVOIDABLE in the course of  your marriage. What can you do about it? Train yourself to: Find healthy ways to let off steam.  Investigate the REAL reason for your anger. Communicate same to your spouse.  Let it go: Don’’t allow it to fester. Consciously choose happiness in your marriage. 5.  There is no such thing as independence in a marriage. Interdependence of marriage acknowledges the importance and need of both parties. It means that the man needs the woman and the woman needs the man. The absence of WORTH invalidates the essence of the union.     4.  Most men want peace i n their home. Shouting to make yourse