CHECK THEIR PHONES:

"A parent recently checked his daughters' phone spontaneously only to save her from a potential kidnapper. His daughter was chatting with a man with a fake account, and nefarious intentions. She had agreed to meet the man at the mall and she was not going to tell her parents."

The right of the child is something everyone should be passionate about but I've noticed of recent that the discourse has become ridiculous and meaningless. 

Talk about people seriously debating on the right of the child to gender determination, absolute privacy, and personality formation. 

IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE ADULT PARENT to: 

• Give birth to the child. No child can be consulted on whether or not he/she wants to be born. That is the sole prerogative of the parents. 
• Provide for the child. The limitations of the parents also binds the child. It's ridiculous to separate the welfare of the parent from the child. 
• Form the child's' character. Parents must remain responsible for the formation of the child's' character. There is no such thing as an innate personality. Character traits are either learned, imbibed through DNA or through experience. Even these are still subject to modification, expungement or development. 
• Protect the child. No child should ever be responsible for their own defense. The catastrophe of child soldiers is one of the worst things to ever happen to this world. etc 

To pursue the myriad of responsibilities a parent has over his/her child, we must learn to proactively set boundaries and break boundaries to achieve these. 

If breaking in unannounced to your daughter's room will save her from sex at a young age, wouldn't you do it? 

If monitoring your son's friends and his communication will save him from "drug running" wouldn't you do it? 

Until a child's character formation is set in stone, there should NOT be an end to supervision, oversight, and interventions. 

Yes, I know that invasion of privacy may affect their confidence level as well as affect their personality growth.
Yes, I also agree that no parent can be 100% sure that they have all the bases covered.
Yes, you could get arrested in some parts of the world for this. 

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Ask yourself these questions: 

What antics and troubles did you experience as a child because of unsupervision? 

Which is better: an overbearing parent or a negligent parent? 

Is the inherent risk is leaving your child unsupervised less disastrous than the inherent risk in breaching their right for absolute privacy? 

So parents here are the lessons for spy protection services we need for our children today: 

Spontaneously demand their phones and check their messages, browser history, social media chats, inboxes and call logs. Also, check for apps that hide messages and other apps. 

Install apps that give parental control, so that you can limit the ability of the phone to educational sites and basic communication. 

Sit them down periodically and inform them of the need for what you are doing and the dangers of the crazy world out there. Assuage their curiosity yourself as wisely as you can and in stages. 

Set rules and boundaries for everything. When to chat, How long is aloud, Use of their time, What kind of information to never give out, etc. 

Teach them security tips and expose them to news about tragic happenings in the world (like kidnappings, rape, the effects of drug abuse, forced prostitution, slavery, etc). Nothing presently gives a harsh wake-up call like reality. 

- E. I. OPUTA  

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