EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Dear Single Ladies: Being in love is the most amazing feeling you can experience. It's even more amazing when your LOVE is able to kiss your heart! What does that mean? Being loved is far beyond "chemistry" and "biology". When you find someone who sees beyond the surface straight to your heart, beyond your slaying, down to your core that is imperfect with scars from fears, loneliness, needs ... vulnerabilities... When you meet such a person who loves YOU; not your ass or your breasts or your sass but you and all of you, that person has kissed your heart!!! Any man can kiss your lips, only one man can kiss your heart! When you find such a man, don't play games with him. Don't be afraid to be REAL and natural with him. Don't hold back on your loving! Give him everything you have because he has already given up on everyone and everything to kiss your heart!!! Don't allow the fears of your peers stop you from touching heaven right here on

This morning, I fired up my system to new year felicitations on FB. As I responded to some of the messages, my mind notices excited greetings of "Happy New Years" floating it through the window. I can make out the sounds of my children watching their "carkoon" and the excited shouts of my neighbours as they undertake one form of entertainment or the order. I can hear varied genres of music floating out from the flats in my area. ... Then I hear it ... A scream that isn't one of entertainment. I hear a crash and a wail. I quickly rush out. But when I get outside everywhere is deserted and I don't hear a thing. As I'm about to give up I hear distinctly from across my fence my neighbour berating his wife in a controlled angry tone "You think sey na you marry me? I'll show you...". His wife in a tearful shriek replies repeatedly, "because you now make small change, you think you can now sleep around. When I married you, you had