BEST FOOT AND HIND FOOT

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I think it is the British that has this adage about "... putting your best foot forward". When you meet someone outside your home environment, it's likely you are meeting the person in his/her best attire, behaviour. comportment and look. It is very foolish to accept anybody based purely on the assessment of the "best foot".
You know that first impression matters. 
DO NOT CHOSE YOUR SPOUSE WITH THE PICTURE OF FIRST IMPRESSION ON YOUR MIND.
Listen, when making your choice, you really do not want to focus on his/her good points, NO, discover his/her not so flattering points.
I hear of couples having "miracle marriages". It makes me laugh! Seriously, you met a man on an airplane traveling to Lagos and he took your number after a short talk and the next week you are married to his brother. (This actually happened, saw it on TV as a testimony).
Listen dears, the period of courtship is not only for you to discover how amazing your "boo" is, or for you to push the line between holiness and sin. It is for you to DISCOVER THE WORST STATE POSSIBLE in your future spouse.
How can you marry someone and two years later you discover that he has another family in a different state!!! Not saying the man is right, just saying that you jumped into something with little information. You were overly impressed by his BEST FOOT.
Ladies sometimes get stuck in romantic notions. 
RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE IS NOT THE WAY YOU ENVISION IT IN YOUR MIND. 
Fight through the fog of love, attraction and chemistry to see the real story. What you see should not scare you but it is information that will help you with your decision on whether he is the right one or not.
SEEING THE HIND FEET IS THE TARGET:
  1. Is he violent?
  2. Is there genetic sickness (madness, stroke, imbecility, e.t.c.) in his family?
  3. Are there family traditions that will affect you negatively? 
  4. Is he into substance / drug abuse and sexual perversion?
  5. Is he into spirit-ism?
  6. Is he a kidnapper? 
  7. What is his goal in life?
  8. Finance: Where does his money come from? Seriously how can you not know that?
  9. Does his vision align with yours? Where does he see himself 5 years from now? Does he have room for you in his vision (i.e. where does he see YOU in 5 years from now)? Or does he intend for you to be a tag along in his journey to greatness?
  10. Does he truly know what love means? Does he know how to love? (That someone says "I love you" is no indication he/she knows what he/she is talking about.) e.t.c.
You see, if you ask some ladies about what they'll look for during courtship or their choice of man, they invariably list out qualities that the man intended for them to see. His many good points are good to know. (he is tall, handsome, religious, generous, kind, e.t.c.) That's sweet ...
YOU NEED TO SEE THE HIND FEET!
Remember, that no one is perfect. All you are trying to do is make informed decisions.
DON'T BE SWEPT OFF BY HIS BEST FOOT, FIND THE HIND FOOT!!!


- E. I. OPUTA

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