EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Hello friends, The dictionary defines RELEVANCE as the quality or state of being closely connected or appropriate. Marriage does not happen for happening sake. Relationships are built on the unspoken foundation of relevance. Relevance to genealogy Relevance to well being Relevance to emotional state of mind Relevance to future and growth Relevance to status and pride Relevance to wealth Relevance to pleasure and happiness People (consciously or unconsciously) shed off people who become irrelevant to them. Then when irrelevance changes to harmful association, that person becomes an enemy. Now, in love relationships, some people take this very important foundational principle for granted. They erroneously assume that love would/should solve what ever imbalance their ignorance or negligence may cause. This is wrong. Your spouse or significant other loves you for a reason. The concept of a reason-less love is an unrealistic fantasy. You are relevant to him/her on varied levels. Your choice...

Hello friends, I hope you are all keeping safe this season! Conversing with friends this period, a lot of young people are beginning to lose the "free-spiritedness" they used to pride themselves in. When suddenly faced with the probability of demise as experienced by the staggering news of death during this pandemic, they decide they no longer want to remain "unshackled". So, a little advice to you all, hope it makes sense and helps in your decision-making process! . . . SEX IS NOT AN EXPRESSION OF LOVE, SACRIFICE IS. You do NOT need to have sex to show your love just as people do NOT necessarily love those they have sexual relations with. This is the core reason why the LGBTQ movement is full of foolishness and deceit. They claim it is an expression of love. Love made them have queer sexual fetishes. A man decides to have sex with his fellow man through unnatural means and claim it is his expression of love. This is the height of foo...

Hello friends,  I have always maintained that although there is equality of the sexes in general, there is no equality of the couple in marriage.  The man is the head of the family. The captain. The first defender. The overseer and representative.  The woman is the neck of the family. The specialist. The director of operations. The home builder and first class mate.  The structural hierarchy is not to demean a sex but to foster cohesion that recognizes the strengths and weaknesses presented by each gender and personality.  This present article is really not about the hierarchy needed for the home to succeed but "why so many men refuse their wives from working".  Why do some men stop their wives from taking on career responsibilities?  Why do some husbands feel threatened by their wives job?  Here are some reasons gathered from years of experience counselling and observing contemporary homes: 1. ...

Hello friends, One of the greatest experiences a person could gain in this world is one that comes from the relationship of having a HOME - a FAMILY! One of the greatest failings in gleaning this great experience is seeing it as a destination and not a journey. A family is not an achievement! It is not a result! A symbol of hierarchy or status! It is not a possession! A product or reward of years of work or turmoil! Thinking it is the above is one of the underlying factors for a lot of marital failures. Do NOT get married because: Your friends are getting married You are of age. You have acquired "sufficient" wealth for it. You deserve it. In this part of the world, students are used to the process of a result from an examination after a term of schooling. Or for workers, the process of a wage after a month or period of work. Marriage should not be seen in this light. Bone of my bones! Flesh of my flesh! My very soul-mate! The one that completes me! The one person wh...

1. Your word must be your bond. Remember that marriage is initiated by words. If your words do not carry weight, your marriage becomes meaningless. Avoid lying/deceit, fulfil promises, say what you mean. 2. Don’t be a parasite. Parasites live at the EXPENSE of their host. Don’t make your spouse your host. Share the expense. Be a contributing member. Marriage is for sharing of responsibilities. It is primarily for helping, so help. 3. Spice up your sex life. Imbue your marriage with romance and chemistry. Stop keeping a sex timetable with your spouse. Do not make it a chore. Do not allow it wane in its novelty. Allow for visual and sensory stimulation. Be adventurous, spontaneous and participatory. 4. Involve your spouse in your play time. Whether at home or on a vacation. Don’t taint your subconscious to associate daily stress with your spouse. Make memories of laughter and fun as well. 5. Display and own your bias: Love is suppose...