EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Hello friends,  Here are some words of wisdom to meditate on in preparation for 2020 marital bliss.  The coined phrase "gender pride" refers to the innate pride one feels in his gender as a result of attaining a certain status or achieving a certain goal.  For instance, it is the pride a lady feels when she takes in and puts-to-bed. You hear them say things like, "I am finally a woman". The same thing also occurs in a man.  Gender pride also comes to play in cases of achievement. When a young man has been able to attain a level of wealth or independence, he said to become a man. Funny enough the same is also said of a boy who gains wealth at a young age.  Today, I will be touching on the importance of protecting the essence of gender pride in our marriage. Often times we neglect this issue for varied reasons. One, we may not even realize that it is an issue. Two, we disregard it in the face of westernization and illuminating educat...

Hello friends, One of the greatest experiences a person could gain in this world is one that comes from the relationship of having a HOME - a FAMILY! One of the greatest failings in gleaning this great experience is seeing it as a destination and not a journey. A family is not an achievement! It is not a result! A symbol of hierarchy or status! It is not a possession! A product or reward of years of work or turmoil! Thinking it is the above is one of the underlying factors for a lot of marital failures. Do NOT get married because: Your friends are getting married You are of age. You have acquired "sufficient" wealth for it. You deserve it. In this part of the world, students are used to the process of a result from an examination after a term of schooling. Or for workers, the process of a wage after a month or period of work. Marriage should not be seen in this light. Bone of my bones! Flesh of my flesh! My very soul-mate! The one that completes me! The one person wh...

Why do people, I mean all of us, crave for the approval and attention of others to feel okay? Should achievement be tied to what others think? Should your happiness depend on the whims and emotions of others? Don't anchor your happiness on others. Don't place premium on things that do not last. A Crow was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan... This swan is so white and I am so black...crow thought. This swan must be the happiest bird in the world. He expressed his thoughts to the swan. "Actually," the swan replied, "I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot, which has two colors. I now think the parrot is the happiest bird in creation." The crow then approached the parrot. The parrot explained, "I lived a very happy life—until I saw a peacock. I have only two colors, but the peacock has multiple colors." The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and saw that hundre...