EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Hello friends, One of the greatest experiences a person could gain in this world is one that comes from the relationship of having a HOME - a FAMILY! One of the greatest failings in gleaning this great experience is seeing it as a destination and not a journey. A family is not an achievement! It is not a result! A symbol of hierarchy or status! It is not a possession! A product or reward of years of work or turmoil! Thinking it is the above is one of the underlying factors for a lot of marital failures. Do NOT get married because: Your friends are getting married You are of age. You have acquired "sufficient" wealth for it. You deserve it. In this part of the world, students are used to the process of a result from an examination after a term of schooling. Or for workers, the process of a wage after a month or period of work. Marriage should not be seen in this light. Bone of my bones! Flesh of my flesh! My very soul-mate! The one that completes me! The one person wh...

1. Your word must be your bond. Remember that marriage is initiated by words. If your words do not carry weight, your marriage becomes meaningless. Avoid lying/deceit, fulfil promises, say what you mean. 2. Don’t be a parasite. Parasites live at the EXPENSE of their host. Don’t make your spouse your host. Share the expense. Be a contributing member. Marriage is for sharing of responsibilities. It is primarily for helping, so help. 3. Spice up your sex life. Imbue your marriage with romance and chemistry. Stop keeping a sex timetable with your spouse. Do not make it a chore. Do not allow it wane in its novelty. Allow for visual and sensory stimulation. Be adventurous, spontaneous and participatory. 4. Involve your spouse in your play time. Whether at home or on a vacation. Don’t taint your subconscious to associate daily stress with your spouse. Make memories of laughter and fun as well. 5. Display and own your bias: Love is suppose...

Good morning,  If the worth of your relationships is money-based, you will easily be susceptible to fraud. Everyone in your life is not there for you to benefit from financially.  Growing up, I was privileged to meet and interact will great minds who bestowed their wisdom by communication. They never gave money to me but their experiences proved more valuable.  Presently, I maintain healthy value-based relationships with great minds who may not own Porsche cars or humongous mansions in different parts of the world, but they are so wealthy in their own right.  The richest man in the world is only that because he hordes his money. There are a lot of people who do not horde their money but invest in the lives of thousands of people daily. I have been privileged to meet them.  They do not care about what young people of this generation care about. Their focus has always been on equipping the next generation to be better than their ...

"Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say, A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid."  Crowd mentality, Herd mentality, Mob mentality and Pack mentality, also lesser known as Gang mentality, describes how people can be influenced by their peers to adopt certain behaviors on a largely emotional, rather than rational, basis.  That is one major problem with us in Africa and more especially with Christians (Church goers) in Nigeria. I have always hated the term "the masses". So, I tend to dissociate myself from anything that has to do with the masses. Mass transport, mass feeding, mass education, mass skill acquisition, etc. Being uniquely you is the backbone of your individuality. It's what separates humanity from robots or from animals. Everybody must learn to think for themselves. It's this herding that has brought us to the state we are in.  Notice that God does not recognize herd decisions or ma...

"Your promises lose value if they often end up in excuses."    "If you want people to listen when you speak, learn the art of only saying what you mean."  A man is as good as his words. If your word is your bond, it means that what you say or commit to is as valid as your signature on an agreement document.  The worth of a man is often demonstrated by his relationship with the people around him. Family, colleagues, business associates, friends and neighbours. The value these people place on you is determined by the nature/strength of your character. The strength of your character is formed by the consistence of the principles you keep.  integrity   1. the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. "a gentleman of complete integrity" synonyms: honesty , uprightness, probity, rectitude, honour, honourableness, upstandingness, good character, principle(s), ethics,...

You think you've figured life out? You know nothing. There is no end to learning. Don't limit your self to an idea. Life is bigger and more dimensional than you  could ever imagine. So, take a deep breath and stop assuming, judging, 'rail-roading" or limiting. Have an open mind and you will yet be shocked by what you find My lecturer once said to me (when I was in school), if you don't read, you'll end up paying those that have read. Reading is a habit that  develops your person. It's like feeding your body. But in the case of reading you are feeding your mind. Years later as a teacher in a school, I told my students (when I was still teaching) that books are sources while those that read the books and assimilate them are called resource persons. You value is equal to what you have inside of you. Develop the reading culture and develop yourself so that your wealth will not be in your possessions or your bank statement but in you. This is why ...