EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

First of all, let me show you some precautions for skydiving: 1. Safety is EVERYONE'S responsibility. 2. Don't ever get complacent. 3. Review your emergency procedures before the jump. 4. Get a gear check before the jump. 5. Always approach the plane from the rear. 6. 200 jumps are required before undertaking the jump. 7. Perform handle checks before preparing to exit the plane. 8. Be very aware of everyone around you at break-off. 9. Be mentally prepared for malfunctions and always be ready to perform your emergency procedures. 10. Know which way is North, South, East, and West on the jump. Now, simulate that to marriage and you have an amazing recipe for a sensible marriage experience. I say sensible because that should be the baseline for any marriage. And also some marriages I see these days are so insensible. Please take note of the following if you are about to undertake a skydive (marriage): 1. This action is dangerous. It gives a high. Yes. It's very satisfying. Yes...

Hello friends,  Here are some words of wisdom to meditate on in preparation for 2020 marital bliss.  The coined phrase "gender pride" refers to the innate pride one feels in his gender as a result of attaining a certain status or achieving a certain goal.  For instance, it is the pride a lady feels when she takes in and puts-to-bed. You hear them say things like, "I am finally a woman". The same thing also occurs in a man.  Gender pride also comes to play in cases of achievement. When a young man has been able to attain a level of wealth or independence, he said to become a man. Funny enough the same is also said of a boy who gains wealth at a young age.  Today, I will be touching on the importance of protecting the essence of gender pride in our marriage. Often times we neglect this issue for varied reasons. One, we may not even realize that it is an issue. Two, we disregard it in the face of westernization and illuminating educat...

Good morning,  If the worth of your relationships is money-based, you will easily be susceptible to fraud. Everyone in your life is not there for you to benefit from financially.  Growing up, I was privileged to meet and interact will great minds who bestowed their wisdom by communication. They never gave money to me but their experiences proved more valuable.  Presently, I maintain healthy value-based relationships with great minds who may not own Porsche cars or humongous mansions in different parts of the world, but they are so wealthy in their own right.  The richest man in the world is only that because he hordes his money. There are a lot of people who do not horde their money but invest in the lives of thousands of people daily. I have been privileged to meet them.  They do not care about what young people of this generation care about. Their focus has always been on equipping the next generation to be better than their ...

"Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say, A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid."  Crowd mentality, Herd mentality, Mob mentality and Pack mentality, also lesser known as Gang mentality, describes how people can be influenced by their peers to adopt certain behaviors on a largely emotional, rather than rational, basis.  That is one major problem with us in Africa and more especially with Christians (Church goers) in Nigeria. I have always hated the term "the masses". So, I tend to dissociate myself from anything that has to do with the masses. Mass transport, mass feeding, mass education, mass skill acquisition, etc. Being uniquely you is the backbone of your individuality. It's what separates humanity from robots or from animals. Everybody must learn to think for themselves. It's this herding that has brought us to the state we are in.  Notice that God does not recognize herd decisions or ma...

            I think it is the British that has this adage about "... putting your best foot forward". When you meet someone outside your home environment, it's likely you are meeting the person in his/her best attire, behaviour. comportment and look. It is very foolish to accept anybody based purely on the assessment of the "best foot". You know that first impression matters.  DO NOT CHOSE YOUR SPOUSE WITH THE PICTURE OF FIRST IMPRESSION ON YOUR MIND. Listen, when making your choice, you really do not want to focus on his/her good points, NO, discover his/her not so flattering points. I hear of couples having "miracle marriages". It makes me laugh! Seriously, you met a man on an airplane traveling to Lagos and he took your number after a short talk and the next week you are married to his brother. (This actually happened, saw it on TV as a testimony). Listen dears, the period of courtship is not only for you to discover...

"SCAFFOLDING -ˈskafəʊldɪŋ,ˈskaf(ə)ldɪŋ A temporary structure on the outside of a building, made of wooden planks and metal poles, used by workmen while building, repairing, or cleaning the building." Relationships have too many issues to contend with for people to add misconception to it. How can you have a beautiful building being erected and what you are focused on doing is beautifying the scaffolding. There are a lot of scaffolding materials in human character and experiences. You'll be surprised at some of them. These are things that seem important but really have absolutely no value in growing a relationship. Some of these include: Chemistry: The way you feel when you are close to him/her. The way they make you feel. You can hardly breathe. Her perfume draws from you a whole reservoir of longing. Your heart beats so fast just because you heard his voice. e.t.c. CHEMISTRY DEALS WITH CHEMICAL REACTIONS. If you know the correct formula you CAN REPEAT TH...