THE OTHER WOMAN - FOR WIVES

For our married sisters,

Good morning friends,

Let me kick off by stating that prostitution, promiscuity and adultery is a sin towards God, morally repugnant, and showcases a character flaw so bad that many can't seem to find their way back to sanity. 

Be that as it may, wisdom wears different clothes and can be found in weird locations. Today I'll be outlining the wisdom of the Other Woman. I hope you set aside your sensitivity for a minute and grab one or two things to better your home. 

• - She is sensitive. To be able to satisfy her client, she takes the pains of paying attention to the subtle nuances of his body language. She does not preempt him but watches for his desire and then subtly adaps hers to satisfy his longing. 
• - She is discrete. She has learnt to keep silent about the things she's done or heard. That is how he keeps coming back. His failings / weakness as a man is managed by her jealously. Thus he keeps coming back because he TRUSTS her and feels SECURE in her embrace.
• - She makes herself a brand and defends it all the time. I don't know what informed many married sisters that they can let themselves go because they are married. Please DO NOT KILL YOUR BRAND! Do not fart in front of your husband! Never allow him perceive your body odour! Do not take domesticity and familiarly of your relationship with your husband for granted. Make every of his time and encounter with you something he will remember fondly. 
• - She wears the cloak of happiness! A smile is a charm! Nobody wants to be in the cloud of complaints and unhappiness for long. Everyman faces challenges when he goes to work. The demands of the home and life is always depressing. Our wives are supposed to represent our escape from reality. The one who makes it all go away (even if its only for a while and only in our heads). When your presence represents the same reality he faces outside, he becomes pressured to find a release somewhere else. If he doesn't he feels like he will explode. Smile, massage him, make him feel loved, cherished, appreciated, attractive, macho, worshipped, etc. That is what she (the other woman) does for him.
• - She knows and maintains her worth / value. For someone who sells her body, it is amazing that this other woman does not allow herself to be belittled. No one may have paid for her bride price, yet she wears her pride better than her counterparts. You must value yourself! You cannot afford to think cheaply of yourself. Why? Your regard for your person is often reflected in your carriage and informs his regard for you. He may fight it, but eventually he will succumb to "your desire" (expressed in your attitude and actions). 
• - As much as her funds allow, she always packages her assets! Always! Being married did not suddenly cut off your assets neither did it make it irrelevant. Dear Upright Wife, even if it is only in your home, wear that "bomb short" and body fitting clothe. The lust of the eyes is an amazing tool in your arsenal. Remember that there is nothing she is using that is not in your arsenal as well. 
• - She is an expert at seduction! I understand that sometimes you are not in the mood! You worry about a lot of things and you have huge unending responsibilities with the home, the kids and your job/career. Let's put it this way, if you lose your husband to the other woman, these very things you are too busy to do, will suddenly be the only things you will do - either to win him back or to win another. Seduction is key in marital relationships. He did not marry you for your spiritual and mental prowess ALONE but also for your physical and carnal attraction. Maintain it. Make time and allow him to take you out once in a while (it gives him the chance to pose a little for his friends). Dress to attract, even when you are not in the mood! Your beautiful face can achieve for you what your mental persuasion has failed to achieve!
• - She feigns interest in his interests. Stop criticizing your husband all the time. It is not a flattering past time. If he loves watching football, please endeavour to show interest in it for his sake. If he loves to chat online, learn his favourite sites and engage him there. etc. DO NOT let him make another life without you in it. Showing interest in his interest is another way of ensuring your bonds remain strong.
• - She appeals to his ego! Even if you have to act, please do. It is the same with your kids. My wife praises my daughter for every little (mostly insignificant) thing she does and then I watch her (my daughter) try hard to repeat or surpass it. Men are the same! Praise him, magnify his little achievements and watch him try to impress you even more. Talking down on him will only make him seek out the other woman who will make him "feel like a 'real' man".
• - She defends her territory. Hold on tight to what you have. Defend it - if it is worth it. (You agreed to marry - spend the rest of your life with - him, so I'm guessing he is worth it). You may do all the afore listed and still have a wandering eyed man. The other woman knows that women in her trade can steal her client. So while she ensures his satisfaction on one hand, she also ensures that the other women know the implications of trying to poach her man! Do not be too proud to do same! Let them know you won't let him go without a deadly fight (after it is till death do you part). I know some men, who the "other woman" avoid because they know his wife. They will exclaim, "abeg ooh, you want make that mad woman come pour me acid?" There is a time to stake your claim on what is yours. If you do not, a stranger will waltz into your home and seat on your head! (figuratively speaking).

It is my prayer to you all that your miracles remain and that you find true and unfailing bliss in your marriage. I realise that a lot of us have the orientation that we do not need to work to hard in (or fight for) a marriage / relationship that is our own (destined for us). I just want to tell you that the enemy's job is to take what is yours. So it is your job to do the best you can and be the best you can. 

Be fun, spontaneous, mysterious (unpredictable), useful, delightful, etc. this will make your husband regard you as wonderful, amazing, beautiful in and out, supporting, etc. 

These testimonials are not gotten on the bed of laxity but on a predisposed bed of consciousness that becomes personality over time. 

God bless you!

- E. I. Oputa 

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