COMMITMENT PHOBIA:

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The truth is that there really is someone better than your spouse out there. Yes! If your spouse is 99%, well there is someone who is 100% your type and probably searching for you. This fact is the motivating fear for some young people with the phobia for committing to bond with someone they love. The problem is never the partner at hand but the one that could be. The fear of meeting your “soul mate” (the one meant for you) after you’ve been joined to another has kept many single for too long. The fear of commitment affects both male and female. The loss of play/social friends due to a commitment to one is a constant nightmare.

The closed feature of marriage garnished with an oath of together-forever, puts a damper on any eagerness to be hitched. If I’m going to be bound forever, then I might as well be bound to the best one. The problem with this thought is that “the best” is entirely a matter of perception and circumstance. The most beautiful girl in 2015 may not be the most beautiful in 2017. The hunkiest and richest man in Nigeria may just be lost in the Bahamas. The virtues of attraction that people use as "guide-sticks" such as beauty wealth, generosity, love, vivacity, intelligence, youth, experience, patience, companionship ... are variables that are not constant under all conditions.
Marriage is a choice. 
A decision. It is conscious work. You don’t stumble/fall into it. You don’t gamble on it. It is an oath you must have every intention to keep. It is not perfect just like you aren’t. This fact makes it perfect to work with your imperfection to produce a special thing - a family!


- E. I. OPUTA

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