HOW DO I KNOW MR. RIGHT?

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Enough with the confusion!


Single ladies, let's talk marriage a bit.


Marriage is not partnership. The bond is not friendship. Marriage is not a competition. It is not living a fairy tale.


If you are attracted to a man, that is not a sign that you have to marry him. There are a lot of amazing / attractive people in this world. Crushing on them is only normal.


If you have feelings (love) for a man. that is not enough reason to marry him. I'm sure you have feelings for your brother but you don't marry him, do you? It is very possible to have deep love for many men. Being in love is a conscious act that can only be granted one person.


What is the utmost sign / reason to agree to a man's proposal?
How do you know which of your crushes is suitable to become your husband?


Let's deal on this finally, shall we?


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Whoever is going to be your husband needs to:
1. Be your idol: This means that his real persona/character is so admired by you that you worship the ground on which he walks. Crazy huh!?! Well, that is just the point. Marriage is not equal partnership. It has hierarchy. The husband over the wife. So you must chose a man who is easy to submit to. Because that is what you will need to do for the rest of your married life.


2. Be absolutely trustworthy: You can't afford to begin testing his faithfulness / trust worthiness after marriage. By then it would be too late. The man is going to lord over you. So you must establish that you trust him to take care of your body (not rape and disrespect you), your finance (not betray you and squander your money), your children (not use and abuse them) and your life (not endanger it).


3. Be a similar vision bearer: You also have a purpose to fulfill as an individual. His vision and yours must align, if not you both will be working at cross purposes.
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There are three more vital points you need to verify before you say I do.
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Need to know them? Comment below! 🎤


- E. I. OPUTA

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