EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

Hello friends,  What is love? I heard a song similar in lyrics to the title of this post that made me realise that LOVE means different things to different people. And that one of the greatest common errors people make is ASSUMING that your definition of love is the-same with the other persons’ definition. It has gotten to the time when one has to ask “What exactly do you mean?” when receiving an “I Love You” declaration. What do you mean? What exactly do you mean? What do you love about me? . . . Today’s post is not really about defining love but scrutinising a popular view of love that bothers on SEXISM and SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION. Sexism is prejudice or discrimination based on a person's sex or gender. Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity. . . When I heard the song as entitled, I realised that w...

Hello friends, One of the greatest experiences a person could gain in this world is one that comes from the relationship of having a HOME - a FAMILY! One of the greatest failings in gleaning this great experience is seeing it as a destination and not a journey. A family is not an achievement! It is not a result! A symbol of hierarchy or status! It is not a possession! A product or reward of years of work or turmoil! Thinking it is the above is one of the underlying factors for a lot of marital failures. Do NOT get married because: Your friends are getting married You are of age. You have acquired "sufficient" wealth for it. You deserve it. In this part of the world, students are used to the process of a result from an examination after a term of schooling. Or for workers, the process of a wage after a month or period of work. Marriage should not be seen in this light. Bone of my bones! Flesh of my flesh! My very soul-mate! The one that completes me! The one person wh...