EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

  Let me list out the moral of the post before I "mis-yan"! 1. Little things matter a lot 2. No dey form "Igwe buruburu" for your own family 3. Appreciate your spouse So, when we got married, my wife and I decided that we would not employ househelps / nanny for our kids. But for that to happen I had to agree to step up and help out as much as I can. One of my duties became to prepare the kids for school while my wife handled breakfast and their lunch. So we devised a system that worked and I took my breakfast to work. My wife also devised a way of putting a smile on my face often by the breakfast she arranges for me. (By now you should know that I love food 😆). So, this morning I get to work, ready for the day, looking all serious. Then I feel hungry, I open my food flask and smile like an idiat! 😂😂😂 I could never guess what she has packed since she hides it from me. It's always a surprise. A pleasant surprise. * * * Show your spouse that you appreciate the...

Hello guys, It is a New Year, 2022. I know many of us will consciously or unconsciously form resolutions about our relationships in the coming year. We would want to end some, revamp some, advance some, etc. Some of us would even determine to get married in this New Year, while some will finally decide to throw in the towel on our marriage and get a divorce! Whatever you decide to do, I want you to know that it is OKAY! A wise man once said, “Pet it, manage it, pray about it, read about it, talk about it, confront it… but don't leave it like that. Do something about it. The issue will not solve itself.” . Last week I was reminded of my former neighbors who hated themselves passionately. They had constant dangerous fights, inflicting bodily harm with weapons but somehow gave birth to a new baby almost every year, while still complaining about their union! I just wondered at people. This made me reticent about giving advice about relationships because sometimes your advice isn't ...

  You cannot and should not carry your marriage solo! The bond of marriage is forged in unity. . It will not work if only one person is committed to making it work! It will not work if only one person is "foolish" and the other "wise"! It will not work if only one person sacrifices while the other cruises! Can two work together, except they be agreed? . It takes two to tango! It takes two to (make/love) a baby! It takes two flints to make a fire! . . No matter the anointing you have: if your spouse is not in your love boat with you, you are not married. (Even if you have the certificate to show) if your spouse does not "go the mile with you", you are not married. if your spouse is united more with a clique than with you, you are not married. . . Unity makes a marriage. 2 becoming 1 is the definition. No need to beat around the bush. Marriage begins with a bond of oneness and NOT with a sealing kiss at the wedding! - E. I. Oputa