EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

  Let me list out the moral of the post before I "mis-yan"! 1. Little things matter a lot 2. No dey form "Igwe buruburu" for your own family 3. Appreciate your spouse So, when we got married, my wife and I decided that we would not employ househelps / nanny for our kids. But for that to happen I had to agree to step up and help out as much as I can. One of my duties became to prepare the kids for school while my wife handled breakfast and their lunch. So we devised a system that worked and I took my breakfast to work. My wife also devised a way of putting a smile on my face often by the breakfast she arranges for me. (By now you should know that I love food 😆). So, this morning I get to work, ready for the day, looking all serious. Then I feel hungry, I open my food flask and smile like an idiat! 😂😂😂 I could never guess what she has packed since she hides it from me. It's always a surprise. A pleasant surprise. * * * Show your spouse that you appreciate the

Hello guys, It is a New Year, 2022. I know many of us will consciously or unconsciously form resolutions about our relationships in the coming year. We would want to end some, revamp some, advance some, etc. Some of us would even determine to get married in this New Year, while some will finally decide to throw in the towel on our marriage and get a divorce! Whatever you decide to do, I want you to know that it is OKAY! A wise man once said, “Pet it, manage it, pray about it, read about it, talk about it, confront it… but don't leave it like that. Do something about it. The issue will not solve itself.” . Last week I was reminded of my former neighbors who hated themselves passionately. They had constant dangerous fights, inflicting bodily harm with weapons but somehow gave birth to a new baby almost every year, while still complaining about their union! I just wondered at people. This made me reticent about giving advice about relationships because sometimes your advice isn't

  You cannot and should not carry your marriage solo! The bond of marriage is forged in unity. . It will not work if only one person is committed to making it work! It will not work if only one person is "foolish" and the other "wise"! It will not work if only one person sacrifices while the other cruises! Can two work together, except they be agreed? . It takes two to tango! It takes two to (make/love) a baby! It takes two flints to make a fire! . . No matter the anointing you have: if your spouse is not in your love boat with you, you are not married. (Even if you have the certificate to show) if your spouse does not "go the mile with you", you are not married. if your spouse is united more with a clique than with you, you are not married. . . Unity makes a marriage. 2 becoming 1 is the definition. No need to beat around the bush. Marriage begins with a bond of oneness and NOT with a sealing kiss at the wedding! - E. I. Oputa

  Hello, This is for parents of older kids. Remember the prodigal son story from the bible? I think being the father of the prodigal son is hard. But I also think we can learn one lesson from that father. *** Let them make the mistake once in a while and learn from it *** I know it's your job to protect them. To utilize the benefit of experience and wisdom from your old age to chart a safe and optimal route for their life to thrive effortlessly. I know! But sometimes resistance leads to entrenchment in error which leads to derailment! So learn from the father and allow that kid to: move out of the house early travel abroad without proper logistics plan drop out of school start a business without experience decide to be transgender marry that vagabond live on the wild side of life a bit etc You feel like saying God forbid, right? Well. the alternative is that you may push them to greater disaster because of pressure. Disasters that you may not foresee! You can only TRAIN a child whe

  These are the two things every spouse desires from his/her partner – Respect & Acceptance. People are generally different. This fact comes to play in our marital unions – giving birth to different shades of marriages. But no matter what shade your marriage is coloured with, these two subjected factors is vital to the longevity of your home and union. Because the woman occupies a vital position in a home, these factors are most necessary for her to understand. Respect goes beyond service and mannerism. It begins with the level of value you place your spouse and is established with how much you allow that level of value to influence what you do, say or allow in relation to him. Respect you spouse. Mind what you say to him and how you say it. Respect him enough to learn his boundaries and character quirks. Respect him in how you handle his affairs. Respect him more than how you would value your MOG or father. Acceptance is tied with contentment. It means not being ashamed of his

First of all, let me show you some precautions for skydiving: 1. Safety is EVERYONE'S responsibility. 2. Don't ever get complacent. 3. Review your emergency procedures before the jump. 4. Get a gear check before the jump. 5. Always approach the plane from the rear. 6. 200 jumps are required before undertaking the jump. 7. Perform handle checks before preparing to exit the plane. 8. Be very aware of everyone around you at break-off. 9. Be mentally prepared for malfunctions and always be ready to perform your emergency procedures. 10. Know which way is North, South, East, and West on the jump. Now, simulate that to marriage and you have an amazing recipe for a sensible marriage experience. I say sensible because that should be the baseline for any marriage. And also some marriages I see these days are so insensible. Please take note of the following if you are about to undertake a skydive (marriage): 1. This action is dangerous. It gives a high. Yes. It's very satisfying. Yes