ADOPTED QUOTES AND STEREOTYPES - WATCH OUT FOR THEM!

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Good morning friends, my name is Emmanuel Oputa. Today, I will like to talk to you about adopted quotes and stereotyping.

You see there are a lot of things we do and believe to be normal and are status quo but shouldn’t be. In our individual journey to discover ourselves we have to be cautious of the cast to which we are molding our selves. Sometimes the cast is religious, sometimes it is societal structured, sometimes it’s just a result of generalizations and accepted norms. We must try to discover ourselves for ourselves. There needs to be an original reason for everything we do. Don’t just take your bath because it’s an accepted norm to do so, do it for a reason you can believe in and will never regret. 

I’ve discovered that a lot of quotes and common beliefs have proven to be false or unacceptable to me. For example:
1. “People do not change”: People actually do change. Those of you that have known me for a long time will attest to this fact. I certainly I’m not the person I used to be 20 years ago. In fact, when I think back to some of the things I’ve done and said, I cringe within me. You see, I’ve changed
2. “The end justifies the means”: I personally don’t agree with this. You see, there is more to the means that may not necessarily be justified by a successful expected end result. The path to an end often changes the feel of things. For example, I want to be rich. Definitely. But there are lot of things that are not worth that desire. If the whole world were to exclude me and deride me because of my wealth, that end result though successful would be like ash in my mouth. If I had to kill and be conniving and sleazy to achieve my end result of wealth, it would be for nothing. You see, the end does not justify the means.

We all need to come to our own conclusions and decisions about life and the issues we encounter in life. A lot of people try to rail-road others into their way of thinking and acting and if you resist them, they ostracize you and sometimes become violent. 

Everyone has the right to form their own thoughts and reach their own conclusions. Everyone has the right to make their own mistakes loose some friends to make some new ones. Everyone deserves the right to form attachments or remain isolated. 

I remember how my differing view on a topical issue almost led to unsavory repercussions because some other person had expectations of me that I was not willing to fulfill. You can't expect me to hate a tribe just because you do. You can't expect me to act in a certain way to a group of people just because majority of people do so. 

If you are snobbish that is your prerogative, don’t expect me to ignore the poor just because you think I deserve to be in the company of the rich. 

Listen, a stereotype is any thought widely adopted about specific types of individuals or certain ways of behaving intended to represent the entire group of those individuals or behaviors as a whole. These thoughts or beliefs may or may not accurately reflect reality.(Wikipedia) 

Not all Fulani’s are terrorists. Not all Igbo’s are Business Savvy. Not all Nigerians are Fraudsters. Not all Yoruba’s are fetish. Not all American’s are rich and employed. Not all Chinese are inventors. Not all men are cheats and players. Not all Christians are honest and Christlike. Not all Muslims are violent and suicidal. 

Stereotypical thinking and generalization may be based on statistics but the truth of the matter is that it is never 100%. And as long as there is that 0.1% of discrepancy, everybody has the right to have and preserve their individuality. 

The summary of this little rant is: 
• BE SURE TO BE YOURSELF.
• BE SURE TO FORM YOUR OWN CONCLUSIONS AND OPINIONS.
• BE SURE TO PRESERVE YOUR INDIVIDUALITY. 
• SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM PACK MENTALITY.
• UNIQUENESS IS THE BEAUTY OF NATURE, DON’T LOOSE IT BECAUSE OF THE NEED FOR ACCEPTABILITY AND ‘RIGHT-NESS”. 




- E. I. OPUTA






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