WISDOM FOR CAREER MANAGEMENT IN MARRIAGE

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As a wife you must be content to be your husbands Queen. The moment the wife becomes unhappy with her designation as Queen, it means that the marriage cannot be. To have a peaceful and successful home both must realize their roles in it (career wise) and be accepting of it.

To ladies, before you get married, you must make sure that your man has a vision that is bigger and in line with yours. This is so that you can find a supporting role to its attainment. There is nothing wrong with a female career. There is nothing wrong in having a married woman being the president of the nation. It will one be expedient if her doing so is in furtherance of her husbands vision. 


How many women will love marrying a man with no vision? No one! This goes to show one of the important factors to consider before marriage. If you (as a lady) dream to one day be the Governor of The Central Bank, your dream man (spouse) has to envision being the President of the country or of the World Bank. The point is that your husband’s umbrella must be big enough to cover you and your children. This isn’t a limitation to the female gender but a complement.


To the men, we all are egotistic in nature. We pride ourselves in our ability to feed, shelter and provide for our families. A man loses faith with his ability when his wife seemingly becomes independent of him. A woman has no need of a man if she cannot go to him for solutions to her problem. If she has a 63 million naira contract and she is looking for a financier, she can not go to her 150 thousand a month salaried husband. This makes the man “impotent” and as such his use “expired”. Whatever the difference in economy and social class, when marriage occurs, a woman must and should yield her resources to the man and go under him. If she can’t do that, she shouldn’t marry him.


The fear of financial loss only occurs in instances where the man is less (vision wise) than the woman or when the woman has no faith in the ability or destiny of the man (or is at variance with it). A lady marrying a member of the Royal family in England will have no qualms about surrendering her finance and career to her husband. If a lady falls in love with a “pauper” and believes him to be her husband, she must be willing to (first of all) help him identify his vision and destiny; then (secondly) submit all her resources to help him achieve it. The goal of marriage is not success in career or financial independence but the unity of the couple. 


- E. I.Oputa

Excerpt from the book Exposed (Chapter 5: Career, Page 30 -):

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