EXPOSITIONS BY E. I. OPUTA

I had the good fortune of learning something new yesterday which made an impression on me and I wish to share that with you this afternoon. It's about our affinity to be irresponsible. Yes, IRRESPONSIBLE! The opposite of responsible. We often neglect to acknowledge the fact that each time we apportion blame on something or one other than ourselves for what is going wrong in our life, we are irresponsible. Responsibility which is the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone; holds true in spite of outside interference or overwhelming / overriding factors. The phenomenon that is more acceptable to us especially here in Nigeria is called Determinism. This is the philosophy that all events, including human action, are ultimately determined by causes regarded as external to the will. Some philosophers have taken determinism to imply that individual human beings have no free will and cannot be held morally responsible for their ...

This was going to be a short quote but it ended up like this. Any man who is hard on his wife is cheating on her and any woman who is hard on her husband is cheating on him. (E. I. Oputa, 2017) Being hard or soft is my coinage to represent two contrary emotions that people reflect in relationships.  When a man wants to toast a girl, he goes soft. You don't get a babe by being obnoxious, violent and difficult. The same thing happens to a girl that wants to entrap or catch a man. She goes soft. She doesn't complain. She's the most understanding and accommodating. Being married does not imply you throw away all the little wisdom you garnered when you were single. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Listen lady, you can be hard to everybody else in the world, just make sure that you are (and show yourself to be) soft to the one that matters most to you (your husband). Obviously, you don't take shit from anybody. Be willing to take it from your husband. Y...

... Imagine keeping your wife in Dubai to oversee company affairs there while you remain in the US. You’ve just split up your own family with your hand.  No matter how big your vision gets. NEVER SPLIT YOUR FAMILY. Marriage is about unity. If she cannot be where you are, then there is no reason why she would or should remain married to you. ... The couple is ONE. Not TWO. There is NO VISION without the man (plural - couple) that will write it down, make in plain and run with it. Without vision there is no path. The Man is directionless - without work. But a man that is not complete - not united in marriage to his missing rib, cannot be successful in executing his vision (following his path). Cos' you see, his path has two many dangers that he can not handle alone, thus his need to be complete. A lot of men have had this your idea and they ended up loosing everything. Their love, their wife, their children and eventually their business or whatever they...

Good morning friends, my name is Emmanuel Oputa. Today, I will like to talk to you about adopted quotes and stereotyping. You see there are a lot of things we do and believe to be normal and are status quo but shouldn’t be. In our individual journey to discover ourselves we have to be cautious of the cast to which we are molding our selves. Sometimes the cast is religious, sometimes it is societal structured, sometimes it’s just a result of generalizations and accepted norms. We must try to discover ourselves for ourselves. There needs to be an original reason for everything we do. Don’t just take your bath because it’s an accepted norm to do so, do it for a reason you can believe in and will never regret.  I’ve discovered that a lot of quotes and common beliefs have proven to be false or unacceptable to me. For example: 1. “People do not change”: People actually do change. Those of you that have known me for a long time will attest to this fact. I certainly I’m not th...

"This psychological fever happens mostly to ladies but it has been known to infect guys too. It is the great desire to marry for one reason or the other that makes them disregard necessary safeguards or processes in other to reach that goal quickly. This phenomenon often makes the victim to see marriage as the ceremony and not the institution which the ceremony celebrates. Many ladies due to the trick of their biological clock have been known to dive headlong into the “marriage race” because they do not wish to “lose”. The marriage ceremony is just that - a ceremony. Marriage doesn’t occur when the officiator declare it to have occurred. It is a bonding that happens long before the state and people are invited to celebrate / mark it. Emphasis on the ceremony has left many bewildered as there are no special feelings that differentiate a single existence and a married one." . . . . . . I noticed that some single folks tend to feel...

A ready Word from God slid into my mind this morning. I'v been meditating on it and how it affects my daily work. It's my desire to share this truth with you.  "BEING CONTENT DOES NOT MEAN SETTLING FOR LESS, IT MEANS BEING GRATEFUL AND FOCUSED ON WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHERE YOU ARE AT." You see, some people have this erroneous belief that: * those that are poor have accepted and are settled in their poverty. * those that lack are settled in their ignorance. * those that are dead where unworthy to be alive. * those that lost, had accepted their fate of failure.  e.t.c. Those are not necessarily true.  You see, at any point in your life, you'll always be in the position of less. What do I mean? What you have right now is not enough and there will never be a time you will have every thing you desire. As long as you are alive, you will always have desires and needs that are above your present capacity. Contentment is the ability of achievi...

The truth is that there really is someone better than your spouse out there. Yes! If your spouse is 99%, well there is someone who is 100% your type and probably searching for you. This fact is the motivating fear for some young people with the phobia for committing to bond with someone they love. The problem is never the partner at hand but the one that could be. The fear of meeting your “soul mate” (the one meant for you) after you’ve been joined to anot her has kept many single for too long. The fear of commitment affects both male and female. The loss of play/social friends due to a commitment to one is a constant nightmare. The closed feature of marriage garnished with an oath of together-forever, puts a damper on any eagerness to be hitched. If I’m going to be bound forever, then I might as well be bound to the best one. The problem with this thought is that “the best” is entirely a matter of perception and circumstance. The most beautiful girl in 2015 may not be the most ...